I’m here today to say goodbye. This is my last blog post with Gem State Writers. I’ve enjoyed being part of this group, and I’ve enjoyed being a part of Boise’s writing community. However, after some serious self-evaluation, I’ve decided it’s time to make some changes.
Several years ago, a friend and I had a discussion about her life goals. She was just graduating from college and was in the process of making some key career choices. We talked about the goals she had for her life which included her new fiance and family. Yet the career choice she was planning to make conflicted with her goals. I pointed this out to her. It was a brilliant friend moment.
I find myself in a similar position now. This year I married a wonderful man. I continue to work as a financial analyst and CPA. And I continue to write manuscripts of an evening and on week-ends. This worked well when I was single. Now that I’ve actually found and married my hero, I realize I’m not spending much time with him. And as I type away on my laptop night after night, week-end after week-end, I keep hearing the brilliant friend advice I so freely dished out all those years ago.
Being a hero, my husband has never once complained (heros are always supportive). But I’ve been thinking about it – a lot. I’ve also been thinking about how little time I’ve spent with my aging parents. My nieces that are growing up too fast. Friends I hardly ever see.
I try to imagine myself at ninety-five-years-old. At that age, what choices will I be happy with? Which will I wish I’d done differently?
Suddenly, it’s a no-brainer. While I enjoy writing, it’s not the priority in my life. However, it has been part of my life for so long that deciding to set it aside was difficult at first. Now I’m excited about it.
I’m very much looking forward to having a more balanced life. I’m looking forward to spending quality time with my husband, having lunch with my nieces, and reading for the sheer joy of it–instead of for the purpose of studying another writer’s style. I’ve read two great books just this week.
I’m also looking forward to working in my new garden. Here’s a photo of our backyard at the moment. My hero, wanting to give his heroine everything she wants, is in the process of digging up the back yard and putting in raised, organic garden beds. Living a more sustainable lifestyle, using less fossil fuel, and simplifying our lives is something we had in common when we met, and we seem to make more progress now that we’re together.
Mary Vine, who currently blogs every second Sunday, will move to this Thursday slot. And I’ll still see you in the comment section.
Best wishes to all of you with your writing. Thank you for reading my blog posts for the past seven months. And thank you, Gem State Writers for letting me be a part of this fantastic group.
I’ll watch for your names in book stores everywhere.