My resolutions for 2012.
- Work on improving my health.
- Spend more time with my husband.
- Spend more time with my children.
- Spend more time with my friends and extended family.
- Spend more time taking joy from each and every day.
In my previous blog, I wrote about my number one resolution for the brand new year. This week I want to talk about my second 2012 resolution.
Spend more time with my husband.
Let’s go back in time, way back. I had graduated from Long Beach Junior College in January. I was going to attend a California college on the trimester system, and wouldn’t be starting classes until March. I decided this would be a perfect time to visit my family and friends in Pocatello, Idaho.
Jerome Mapp was attending Idaho State University. He worked as a DJ at the university radio station. We had met prior to this visit. By met, I mean we said hello. This meeting was different. We actually had a conversation. We talked about our lives, our future plans, and about music. I promised to call the station to make a request.
I made that telephone call.
Have you ever met someone and felt a click?
We went out one Saturday.
The following Wednesday evening we were sitting in my Aunt Tenna’s kitchen. I remember looking at him and knowing exactly how he felt about me. I said, “I know you love me.”
You need to understand my husband in not prone to impulsive acts, unless it’s a shopping deal too good to pass up. I can only imagine how my words must have unnerved the poor man. Sure, we had gone out on Saturday, and he came over to visit me each day since that date, but this, this wasn’t what he expected. He, of course, was taken aback. I smiled as he offered a denial.
Less than an hour later he told me he loved me.
“I know.” I smiled.
On Saturday night we were at a party being hosted at my Aunt Jessie’s house. That’s where he asked me to marry him. There were seven days between the first date and the day he popped the question.
As you can imagine, our speedy engagement sent tongues wagging. There was the pregnancy speculation. I wasn’t. There were the naysayers. “It will never last.” The possibility of divorce never goes away, but… we’re still together.
My darling husband and I have been married for more than three decades. After all that time, it’s easy to start taking him for granted. This is the man I once thought could walk on the moon without the aid of special equipment. The years have shown me he is a mere mortal, but he is my mere mortal. I want to spend more time laughing with him.
My husband and I had the kind of romance authors spin into stories. After the head-spinning rush of love settles, living with someone takes work and commitment.
As writers we create characters that can deal with the things life hurls in their path.
We went through college together, started our careers, raised three sons, and dealt with the heartbreaking death of one of those sons. Somehow, we’ve managed to stay together.
Recently, one of The Gem State Writers blogged on the issue of true love. The problem with love is that the shine dulls with age. It doesn’t sparkle as brightly as it did when you first discovered it. He is mortal. So am I.
My resolution is to enjoy spending time with the man a twenty year old version of me decided to spend her life with, and enjoy those ordinary moments we spend together.