2012 Resolutions, Part 4

09 Feb

My resolutions for 2012.

  1. Work on improving my health.
  2. Spend more time with my husband.
  3. Spend more time with my children.
  4. Spend more time with my friends and extended family.
  5. Spend more time taking joy from each and every day.


In my previous blogs, I wrote about my number one and two resolutions.  This week I’m hopping down to my fourth 2012 resolution.

Spend more time with my friends and extended family.

I believe in the enduring strength of family.  My books always contain this element.  I remember someone questioning why one of my characters would swoop in to rescue her sister from disaster.  She’s family.  What else would she do?  The person didn’t think it was strong enough motivation.  It was a no-brainer for me.  Family is family.

As a child, I longed for that picture perfect family depicted on television shows.  It took me years to appreciate the unfolding drama that plays out within families.  We are forever connected through our bloodline.

My mother is an only child, or so I thought for many years.  No, there wasn’t a secret baby.  My great grandparents divorced, and then remarried.  It’s like they had two families.  Aunt Jessie was five years older than my mother.  Uncle Spencer is three years older than my mother.  Aunt Tenna was nine months older.  It’s taken me all these years to realize Jessie, Spencer, and Tenna were more my mother’s siblings than her aunts and uncle.

My beloved Great-Aunt Jessie died in January of 2011.  My beloved Great-Aunt Tenna died on January 26th of this year.

My first memory of Tenna is her holding my hand.  We were walking down the street, my mother on one side of me, my aunt on the other side.  When we got to curbs they’d swing me up, helping me maneuver that step.  That’s how it was, both of these women holding my hand as I grew up.

Tenna never had children of her own; she didn’t get married until she was in her forties.  Her nieces and nephews were her children.

I would like to say Tenna was a saint.  She wasn’t.  That was Aunt Jessie.  Tenna was gruff and opinionated, and wouldn’t hesitate to set you straight.

My father was in the Navy.  Pocatello was always that one place I called home.  It was the place my extended family lived.  It was my safety net.

Now, I loved my father, but he had some strange ways.  He’d bought my sister and me school clothes when I was going into the seventh grade.  He didn’t see the need to buy us clothes again.  Never mind we were growing children.  I’m shaking my head at the memory.

Aunt Tenna bought me school clothes when I was going into the twelfth grade.  I didn’t realize how pivotal that was until last week, after I spent time reflecting.  I was one of those shy, quiet girls.  I did my best to blend into the background.  I hadn’t realized that my clothing played a part in isolating me.  The new wardrobe gave me a different outlook.  I made a decision not to blend, to step out of my shell.  My aunt’s gift gave me confidence, and I will forever be thankful to her.

I’ve spent time with family this week.  I am sorry for the circumstances, but grateful for the opportunity to see these people who were instrumental in forming me.

Family, through blood or the heart, is one of the most important things in life.  My stories will continue to reflect this belief.


Posted by on February 9, 2012 in Idaho


15 responses to “2012 Resolutions, Part 4

  1. Janis

    February 9, 2012 at 4:43 AM

    Writing about family and the community one builds is one of Jennifer Crusie’s hallmarks. You’re in good company!

    • Lynn Mapp

      February 9, 2012 at 11:08 AM

      Yeah, baby. Jenny and me.

  2. Liz Flaherty

    February 9, 2012 at 5:09 AM

    Nice post, and I agree with you about “family” being strong-enough motivation for almost everything, whether you see or talk to each other or not. Sorry for your losses.

    • Lynn Mapp

      February 9, 2012 at 11:09 AM

      Thanks Liz. Family forms us.

  3. Liz Fredericks

    February 9, 2012 at 6:53 AM

    You’ve a wonderful set of female role models in your family. Of course, a sister in trouble is sufficient motivation! I’m sorry you’ve dealt with difficult circumstances and am happy you have your family around to support you.

    • Lynn Mapp

      February 9, 2012 at 3:56 PM

      Family, you’ve got to love them.

  4. Meredith Conner

    February 9, 2012 at 11:07 AM

    Family is so important. I have friends that I have “adopted” into my family because they have become so important in my life. I’m sorry to hear about your aunt.

    • Lynn Mapp

      February 9, 2012 at 11:10 AM

      Thanks Meredith, I like to think of “adopted” family members as family of the heart.

  5. ramblingsfromtheleft

    February 9, 2012 at 12:00 PM

    Lynn, this is so heart-felt I want to give you a big hug 🙂 Sorry for your loss. The best we can say during these time is you were lucky to have them in your life and never stop talking about them. I believe our stories and memories of those we have loved and lost, are what true immortality is about.

    • Lynn Mapp

      February 9, 2012 at 4:02 PM

      Ramblings, thank you. I have been blessed to have these women in my life. The memories are priceless.

  6. Mary Vine

    February 9, 2012 at 12:35 PM

    Aunt Tenna did indeed love you. The added blessing is that she lived a long life. I have a special aunt like that and she lived to be 96. I missed her as I sat down to write out Christmas cards this last Christmas. But I did put her name in my second published book (secondary character) and she thought that was the best thing.

  7. Lynn Mapp

    February 9, 2012 at 4:08 PM

    Mary, I love it. I will name a character in her honor.

  8. Peggy Staggs

    February 9, 2012 at 4:30 PM

    Strong family ties are especially important to military kids. You are very lucky. I’m sorry to hear about you aunt.

  9. Marsha R. West

    February 10, 2012 at 7:08 AM

    Lynn, I’m sorry for your loss. Many people don’t have extended families these days or keep connected, so you’ve really been blessed. As to the motivation issue: that says more about them than it does about your writing. To the vast majority of us, family (in whatever shape it comes) counts.

    • Lynn Mapp

      February 12, 2012 at 5:36 PM

      Marsha, you are right. I was blessed to have a close relationship with my extended family.


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