14 Feb

loveHappy Valentine’s Day!

No pseudo-scholarly piece today. You can look up the origins of this day and find it rooted in pagan times, Christian times, and/or a combination of both. Have fun with that.

I am setting aside the commercialism of it. I want to celebrate those who love. I asked a few women I know this question, “What does your husband do that you find romantic.” I told them it could be an every day thing. It didn’t have to celebrate February 14th.

R: First she said her husband cleaned out the cat litter box when it was her turn because she had to go to work. Then, she laughed and said they’d been married too long! A few days later she e-mailed. He bought me a day at a spa (massage, body scrub, facial, lunch, hair and make-up), the whole 9 yards. I was picked up by a white limo. After the spa day, he picked me up and we spent the night at the Anniversary Inn.

H: My husband always makes sure my car is filled with gas, even if he works late. He’s gone out at 4am before. I find that romantic.

L: He does a lot of little things every day…like rubbing my back and feet in the evenings and massaging my neck while I’m waiting for my ride in the morning. He gives me 2-3 cards on special occasions. He always wants to dress up and take me out to a nice, quiet restaurant for my birthday and our anniversary. Sometimes, he lights several candles in the bedroom when he knows he’ll be getting lucky that night. Probably, the most romantic thing he ever did was when he proposed—nice dinner, then we drove up to the Depot, walked out in the garden with the Capitol in the background, he got down on one knee, brought out the ring, and proposed.

J: I remember a few years back my family was going through a rough time and I was down in the pits! I felt broken inside and spent a good deal of time crying every night. Valentine’s Day came around and I was excited to finally smile (hoping my husband would do something). The day had started and there was no mention of Valentine’s Day from my husband. I figured if he wasn’t going to say something, then neither was I. The afternoon had come and gone and still no mention of Valentine’s. Not even a phone call to see how my day was. I remember calling my mother in tears because I thought he had forgotten. However, when I got home, the house smelled of bleach, the washing machine and dryer were running, and as I approached the kitchen/living room, there were no toys on the floor or dishes in the sink. In the kitchen was a huge bouquet of flowers, a box of my favorite chocolate, a card from my husband, and a homemade card from the kids. I was so overwhelmed that I cried all evening! I was more excited about a clean house rather than the gifts, but I also felt ashamed that the entire day I thought he had forgot about me and in turn I never said Happy Valentine’s day to him. In the end, it was a good day and worth the wait!

So now, lovely readers, tell me about what your husband/loved one does for you that you find romantic.


Posted by on February 14, 2013 in Love, romance



12 responses to “Love

  1. stephanieberget

    February 14, 2013 at 8:07 AM

    My husband’s not big on chocolate or cards. He shows his love in unorthodox ways, by fixing things I’ve broken, or making things I can’t go out and buy, like a folding table that just fit the small space beside the dryer. But best of all, when I fall apart for what ever reason, he steps in,picks me up, dusts me off and makes the world a place I can handle again. He’s also my biggest supporter when it comes to writing.

  2. Janis McCurry

    February 14, 2013 at 8:46 AM

    What a sweetie! Thanks for the comment.

  3. marsharwest

    February 14, 2013 at 10:37 AM

    My hubby freqently brings flowers for no reason. But I gotta say the most romantic thing is how he supports me in everything I’ve ever wanted to do. And not just an “Oh, well, if you gotta do that.” kind of way. But all in whole heartedly. “You want to run for school board? Sure. I’ll find the money to help do that. I’ve got contacts who’ll help.” Didn’t win the first time and he supported me through two succesful campaigns, pretty much running them himself. He’s a great strategist.
    “You’re going to write romance novels? Okay, go for it. Do you need to take classes, go to conferences?
    Yeah, amazing support. I’m incredibly blessed.

    • Janis McCurry

      February 14, 2013 at 1:18 PM

      Blessed, indeed. It makes me so happy to read these responses.

  4. Jennifer

    February 14, 2013 at 12:15 PM

    Things my husband does that make me feel loved: gets up with the kids so I can sleep in, supports my writing dream, cleans the house, works multiple jobs so I can be a stay-at-home mom. Yes, he also gets me flowers and chocolates for Valentines Day, anniversaries, birthdays, etc. I think it’s the day to day things that mean the most to me though.

    • Janis McCurry

      February 14, 2013 at 1:18 PM

      Absolutely, it’s the day to day things. Nice to hear he treats you thus.

  5. maryvine

    February 15, 2013 at 5:52 AM

    I’ve been working more hours, so lately he has made dinner every night so I can rest when I get home. This is special because he has ms and sometimes it’s not very easy to move around.

  6. Janis McCurry

    February 15, 2013 at 7:10 AM

    How wonderful to have dinner ready for you. Great hubby.

  7. Peggy Staggs

    February 15, 2013 at 7:47 AM

    Mine never forgets a date, birthday, anniversary, Valentines…nothing. He always goes overboard. This year for Valentines Day I got a lovely little owl necklace. The body is a heart-shaped smoky quartz and the eyes are topaz.
    When I’m sick–which isn’t often–he hovers. He brings me this or that anything he thinks I might want or would make me more comfortable.
    When my critique group used to meet at our house he’d always bring us popcorn and drinks.
    He’s the greatest.

  8. Janis McCurry

    February 15, 2013 at 9:12 AM

    Nice Valentine’s Day gift. And I know you like owls! Thanks for sharing.

  9. Lynn Mapp

    February 15, 2013 at 8:53 PM

    Romance is in the eye of the beholder. Sometimes it just sitting beside me after I’ve had a long day. Sometimes it’s having dinner ready when I get home from work. Sometimes it’s holding me. Sometimes it’s the look in his eyes when he sees me. Sometimes it’s him telling me I’ve beautiful when I don’t feel beautiful at all.

  10. Janis McCurry

    February 16, 2013 at 7:25 AM

    All wonderful examples, Lynn. Definitely a keeper.


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